My Girlfriend Has Gained Weight! What Should I Do?!
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The caller loves her conditionally. Red flags everywhere.
This guy is too immature for a relationship. Full stop.
If you're worth it to her, she'll do her best to meet your expectations, make you happy, and be proud to be seen with her. A woman who values you will maintain a standard for herself in that respect and will not want to jeopardize the relationship by gaining a bunch of weight that she never had before. That which we value and don't want to lose, we guard and protect. If she sold you on a certain version of herself (one you approve of) DO NOT marry anything less than THAT version of her!
Terrible advice brother hes gonna end up cheating on her 😂
If you have any doubts, bail out now!
I heard the exact opposite on one of the doctors videos and he torched the guy for gaining weight. If you are a guy your just get off your ass and lose the weight but if you are a women you get a pass. BTW, I would not have an issue the way this guy does.
Look at her Mother! If her Mother could never lose weight, then she will not be able to lose weight. It's okay to have body type preferences. Pick someone else. Thin women can have nice personalities too.
It’s what you eat – going to the gym will just bulk you up without getting a hold on what you’re eating
Why has no one suggested couple's counseling?!?
The good news is that shes a gf. So you can give her the boot without any problems.
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Misnaming the Asante is a common error. It's particularly risible when certain entertainers adopt the name incorrectly too. It's a bit like calling yourself Belgium! The Asante people are the traditional inhabitants of the Ashanti Region in what is modern day Ghana, although the Asante are spread widely beyond Ashanti and into neighbouring Cote d’Ivoire (Ivory Coast).
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During the expansion of the British Empire in West Africa during the late 19th century and early 20th, the Asante fought three wars against the British with a high degree of skill. It’s probably this history that has perpetuated the impression of the Asante being something of a noble warrior race even into modern times; and a great name for a media star hoping to gain something noble by association! Although they were finally defeated and became a part of what was then called the Gold Coast they enjoyed a high degree of autonomy until Ghana’s independence in 1957. The Asante therefore have been a free people for all but just fifty odd years as a British colony.
I strongly advice the first term to be "thanks". Asante means thanks in Swahili and it is popular for many tourist who are visiting on East Africa and the other
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I certainly can understand how obesity can make one shy away. I see fat people who are GROSSLY fat.
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Unless you’re telepathic(which still wouldn’t matter), the way that both men and women find someone that they’re interested in, is physical attraction. When I met my wife it was because I saw a woman that was physically attractive to me and then started talking to her and vice versa. If she didn’t find me physically attractive then we wouldn’t be together right now.
Physical attraction matters. If I woke up tomorrow 100 pounds heavier and vice versa, their wouldn’t be physical attraction. Yes we love each other but sex is the difference between a friendship and a romantic relationship. If my wife was 300 pounds then I wouldn’t be able to have sex with her and vice versa.
I always ask people that argue this that would you have approached the person you’re married to if they were 500 pounds and always the answer I get is either no or well “I don’t know”.
We all know….
Women don’t like broke men, just like men don’t like overweight women.
Withold sex till she is the size when you first dated . The same goes for you . I am 39 5"11 I have gone from a 32 to a 33 inch waist since I was 15, I can wear the same jynco jeans I had in high school ,yes I still have a pair , I keep them to make sure I dont get fat . When I was 18 I joined the navy , was custom fitted for my dress blues , can still put the pants on , the shoulders are tight as I have gained upper body strength in the shoulders , back, bi's tri's and (cobra hood) . My GF is 35 has only gained 20 since she was 15 , we expect nothing less of each other. Works great because we won't let ourself go . Weight loss is cheap , doesn't require a gym , just cardio and calorie cutting .
She doesn't respect him cuz she asked him to pay for a gym membership she doesn't use.
John is the epitome of blue-pilled. He's angry with the caller for wanting his fat girlfriend to lose weight? John has a track record of being much harder on men than women, and not holding women to account. guarantee if the genders were reversed, this would be a different call.
9:10 I'm sorry. This is too much.
– John, an adult man, does not have a serious sugar addiction. He's fine.
– Fat woman is a project OR he's gotta leave.
ITS VERY SIMPLE, IF YOUR PARTNER US GAINING WEIGHT AND LOOKS BAD AND UNHEALTHY ESPECIALLY IF SHE IS A WOMEN IT IS OKAY TO TELL THEM!!!!! AND IT IS OKAY TO BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE WHO YOU ARE NO LONGER ATTACTED TOO!!!!
No shame for having a preference! Extra weight is as bad as smoking! You can either accept her or move on.
This guy (Dr John) seems to have a problem with people wanting their partners to look good and be healthy. I find it really weird… partners looking after themselves to look good for their other half is completely legit. And when people start getting fat, it's not always because they have deep issues or their partner's making them stressed… it can also be because they're being lazy and undisciplined with eating too much food.
Yep, me gaining weight destroyed my marriage. She's got to get it off or it's over 😔
Never accept a fatty! 😮 I would dump her immediately. He should be happy he didn't marry her.
Tell her how you truly feel gained weight is unatavtive
cant wait till she has kids, hopefully not his, then she will gain lots more and milk will drip all over and baby will cry, not sure if he could cut it and no money will go to the gym because he can just spend it in diapers and change baby while she goes off to work, lucky for her
The question I have, what do you do if you lose the passion in a person but still love them
She needs to do a 365 day juice cleanse and not eat any food. It’s not easy but if she wants to lose weight, this will work and she’ll be healthier for it.
Stage 1. burn off more calories than you consume.
Stage 2. Done.
Haha very funny
My husband loves it when after birth I am on the heavier side. However, I am the one hard on myself I don’t like being heavy and I always go back down
Fellas. You do not have to stay with fat women. Period end of story. Doesn’t matter if you’re fat. If you aren’t attracted to fat women don’t try and protect them or care for them. Let them go be fat by themselves and you go be fat by yourself. Fat women have no problem telling the world that they deserve a skinny/in shape guy. You my fat friend deserve the same thing.
At first, I didn't care about my girlfriend's weight gain. But now, it's getting out of hand. I tried every single possible way to be caring and encourage her to do something about it. But she keeps postponing, and she is getting way bigger. I was very concerned about her health and let her know. Still nothing. Now every time I see her naked, I see how much weight she put on, and now I tell her each time that she is gaining too much weight and I am scared for her. I don't care anymore if she is angry or if I hurt her feelings. I am not gonna leave her, but I am not going to walk on eggshells anymore with her. If she doesn't like it, she can leave me for someone who won't care. But so far, she knows that I am right and that I still love her so much.
Weight gain isn’t a problem, but can be the symptom of a problem. People focus so much on the weight and not what might be causing the weight gain, like stress and anxiety. People are the least motivated to better themselves when it feels like so much else in life is crumbling. Instead of focusing on “how can I get them to lose weight” think about “how can I support my partner better in life”
This is supposed to be Christian advice?!!
Are you kidding us?!
You can’t call spade a spade?
Life will have responsibilities, you either live up to it or not. If one partner is not doing their bit, they are NOT INTERESTED in the partnership period.
Move on dude.
She will continue to be the way she is, until SHE CHOOSES to change.
Did she jump on birth control? That’s good for probably half the weight i would guess
I hav even always fit all my life until my second baby at age of 38 but I would never date when I was younger a super fit gym guy because I feel stressed by them and they wanted to control my food even when they make comment so was shocked and this this guy is similar happily I found a guy who likes eating , I was lucky to have a good metabolism and eat whatever I want for most of my life until my second kid but if a person engraved with a guy who cares a lot about their weight then future will be about it because it is their lifestyle so this guy want someone who has a lifestyle like very fit and be careful of what they eat so they are not perfect match 😢
Being fat is a character flaw